Surviving Holiday Drama

Having boundaries at Christmas - Don't lower your vibe for anyone!

Did you know that before you came into this life you picked your family?

You picked your parents because they were able to teach you what you need to learn in this lifetime.

Each connection, whether easy or challenging, holds the potential for your growth.

You picked your challenges and your struggles.

So if you find that catching up with family or even friends becomes draining, exhausting and like you have to have a constant shield of protection up to ricocheted backhanded comments of negativity then there may be a lesson for you to address in 2025 but let me gift you this little tip to get through this holiday season…

Simply become the observer.

If you find that those family members you felt obligated to invite to your Christmas lunch start talking about other people in a negative way, simply observe what they’re saying. Don’t feel the need to add to the conversation or argue it out to help that person see your perspective (people can't see your perspective if they don't want to see it!) - Your value doesn't increase by engaging in negativity or lowering yourself to their level (I know this because I use to partake in sitting around and talking about others longing for acceptance! - yuck, thank God for growth, healing, finding acceptance within and validating self!).

The people you engage in gossip with won’t truly accept you because to talk about others negatively it shows that they don't accept themselves therefore when you grow into a better version of yourself they won't accept you so let's not stay at their level - because they will talk about you whether you met them where they're at or rise into your best life, let's live in the light and thrive in 2025, let's give them a show!

For now, if somebody asks you an invasive question that you don’t feel comfortable responding to take a moment to pause before replying and reply with something general, they don't need to know everything about you!

Don't explain yourself. Own your life and your choices even if you have no idea what you're doing right now - Great Uncle Boomer doesn't need to give you his biased opinion. Keep to yourself, we can figure it out later - at Xmas lunch, you don't owe anyone an explanation or anything! They are lucky to have you in their company!

Your self-worth is not determined by the people at Christmas lunch. Find your validation within!

You don’t need to explain to anybody what you’re doing with your life or the choices you’ve made.

Tell people what you've achieved not what you have planned - You don't need their opinion!

Some people pick on things just to have something to talk about. If this frustrates you then these people are not your people and we can explore this more in 2025 but for the sake of surviving and enjoying awkward conversations at Christmas allow yourself to observe the conversations and remove yourself if need be!

It’s not your job to make everybody like you, people will only want to see, accept and understand you to the depth in which they want to or can understand and accept themselves.

You have no control over other people’s perceptions and by finding acceptance within you’ll be able to lean back and observe.

You don’t need to impress anyone because those around you can either accept you as you are or miss out!

If this doesn’t resonate, take a moment to observe your own conversations. Are you talking about others? Does speaking about others negatively make you feel better about yourself? Reflect, learn, and grow in 2025.

This Christmas, get amongst it, play with kids in the family, laugh out loud, let your hair down and let your inner child sing.

Get outside and move your body at some point tomorrow to bring in some of those healthy endorphins!

Or even just have a nap if you can and enjoy the food coma -  it’s Christmas after all!

I recommend staying grounded and observing people’s behaviour without draining yourself by engaging in conversations you’d rather avoid—and don’t forget to have fun!

Missing loved ones at Christmas:

Christmas can be a hard time for many of us who have lost a loved one but make sure you celebrate them, share stories and memories that you love about them, like a candle or set a place setting for them, even cook their favourite food and know that they are with you.

Your loved ones in spirit want to see you happy and enjoying Christmas! Give them a show xox

Merry Christmas, I appreciate all of you for being here in my little world of a business I am insanely passionate about!

Welcome to all of my new USA and overseas subscribers! I appreciate you being here - I have lots in the line-up for you all in 2025!

I’ll be having a very Aussie Christmas on the Gold Coast with presents and brunch, followed by a few hours of swimming at the beach across the road from my home while the ham cooks and then a big Christmas dinner with family and friends!

Be kind to yourself! You've got this!

Much love,

Kayla Rae xx